Radical Honesty Trainer, Marvin Schulz, has a great article for you about Radical Honesty in the workplace.
Enjoy the article and then check out his upcoming offerings if you'd like to join him at a workshop this year!
It was a Saturday; a cold Saturday in January.
My friends from Munich took me for a day-hike up the snow-covered mountains of Bavaria. We had a good time, talked and joked. I took out my phone. A message from my boss at the time.
I stripped off my gloves, unlocked the screen…
Marvin, I need you to check your emails now. You have to do this urgent thing for me.
I tensed up. My breathing was shallow. My legs stiffened.
My thought-computer began to work: “I will quit first thing on Monday!”
A Brief History of my Work
Back in the days before Radical Honesty, I worked for different companies. Always in offices. I drank coffee, sat on my arse, and smiled. I did little work. I surfed the internet. I knew how to manipulate my surroundings. They thought I was great, an adult version of being a “good boy” – pretty much one of the worst things you can be.
I said “Yes” when I meant “No”.
I said “How are you doing?” when I meant “I feel terrible”.
I said “Thank you in advance” when I meant “fuck you a thousand times.”
I never lasted too long in any job. I always quit. And lied about my reasons.
When I had built up too much resentment, inhibited my expression for too long, I searched for the next best thing. Maybe a different country? Yes. I went to New York. South Africa. Back to New York. More lying. Withholding. Pretending. Maybe marketing instead of sales?
So I slimed around the world, dragging a stack of unfinished business behind me.
But this was different. The above happened after I learned about Radical Honesty.
An example of Radical Honesty at Work
And so I went to work on Monday. Of course, I knew that quitting would be avoiding. There was a growth opportunity there. Every time you are frustrated, hit an impasse, there is a potential for real growth if you are willing to go into the discomfort of the unknown.
I pussyfooted around my boss. Then, after two hours of build-up, I asked him for a talk.
We kicked it off with some casual banter.
I felt my heart rate increase. My hands tingled. My legs felt tensed up. I avoided direct eye contact. My heart hammered even faster. Knowing I am about to rock the boat never fails to give me some cheap thrills.
Finally, I took a deep breath:
Me: “I have one more thing I want to tell you, and I’m scared to do so.”
Him: “What’s that?”
Me: “I am angry at you for writing to me on Saturday about that work. I don’t want to work on Saturdays.”
He smiled, nodded his head and his eyes lit up
Him: “Yeah, I am really sorry about that. I never wanted to be that guy asking people to do any work on the weekend. I hate it myself. And you were the only one speaking German.”
Me: “I appreciate you for saying that you are sorry and that you never wanted to be that guy”.
I don’t remember what happened after… But we ended like this:
Him: “Thank you for telling me this! That’s why I never want you to stop working with me. You are one of the few people I can trust to tell me their truth.”
Before the talk, I thought I would quit or be fired. After the talk, we became better friends. He even offered that I was welcome to stay at his holiday home sometimes, helped me find freelance work.
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(Photo by Johannes Riggelsen)
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